Monogamy, Polygamy (Part 2) According to my Boyfriend

Within the animal kingdom, of which humans are part, with few exceptions, polygamy is the norm with monogamy being the exception. Indeed it could be argued that from a biological reproduction and evolutionary perspective. Monogamy is completely unnatural as articulated in “The Selfish Gene” a book on evolution by Richard Dawkins, published in 1976. It builds upon the principal theory of George C. Williams's first book “Adaptation and Natural Selection”.

However the selfish gene argument only holds true to heterosexual activity and cannot be applied to homosexual activity, for without heterosexual activity there would be no gene pool and hence, the elimination of a species and from the perspective of biological reproduction homosexual activity itself is unnatural. This “biologically unnatural” argument is often put forward by those who oppose homosexuality.

We have to consider that the concept of monogamy is a relatively modern concept and that its existence is a social construct and should be considered to be culturally, socially, geographical, time and possibly politically specific.

Monogamy was originally reserved as the preserve of north western Christian Europe and North America and was spread throughout the globe through various colonial powers via the process of socialisation, or perhaps assimilation. Further it could be argued that the shift from polygamous to monogamous relationships was a means through which the colonial powers brought about social control and instilled a new social order that was conducive to the colonial powers exercising and maintaining overall control and instilling a new order of social and sexual deviance.

By and large the current prevalence and existence of societies and cultures which still practice and condone polygamy are those that have never undergone colonisation by Christian powers, where Christianity is not the main religion or where it adhered to superficially. Examples of cultures and societies which still practice polygamy are those of the Arab and Muslim worlds and north Saharan Africa. Consider that within the Koran a man may take more than one wife, and within the Masi Mara tribes of Kenya and Tanzania a cohort may share in their husbands and wives in the short term absence of those they are married to.

Essentially it is argued that monogamy is:
• Unnatural
• A tool of colonialism to bring about a new social order
• Restricted to Christian cultures or those that have been colonised by Christian powers
• Time, culturally and geographically specific

Monogamy or Polygamy?

One of the major reasons that non gay population hates us is because we fags have been stereotyped as polygamous, which most of the time is correct. It is not to say that every homo is polygamous, but most of them are. That’s one of the things I like about it.

A monogamous relationship is very difficult to maintain regardless of its type; hetro or homo. Imagine your food. If you have to eat same thing every day, how will you feel? You will hate it. Regardless how tasty it is or how much you like it, if you have to eat it every day with no change you will hate it. Sex is no different than food. We consume both to fulfill a basic need.

The main food of Sri Lankans is rice. Sometimes I have had rice for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Most of the time I am having rice for both lunch and dinner. A meal of rice always includes couple of curries. There are much different kinds of curries to go with. Hence it never feels the same. Similarly sex can be boring without some spicy curries to go with.

The roots of monogamy are jealousy and possessiveness. No one can honestly say it has the love part in it. Love for yourself may be but never the love for your partner. Possessiveness and jealousy are very primitive emotions; they have its root back up to the Stone Age where woman considered to be a “thing” that man owns. When you come to think of it; it hasn’t changed much even after thousands of years. The dominating person in a relationship still wants to posses the partner. Possessiveness leads to jealousy which is kind of ok because sometimes it’s hot thinking of your partner being jalousie of you looking at others and so. However it also can leads to domestic violence, which is according to law, wrong if you are straight and “they deserve it” if you are gay.

More of this topic later another day. If you are monogamous, good for you. If you are not monogamous, great can I have your number?